What do your kids want and need from you the most? Without question they want your love, your time and your attention. They want to be seen, to be heard and to be understood. They want to know that you care. What they also really want, however, is for you to be happy!!! Kids learn most not from what we say, but from what we do. When we are happy, we give our children permission to be happy. Are you a role model for happiness? Are you a role model for joy? Are you a role model for laughter, love, friendship and living life well? The greatest gift we can give our children is to be all that we can be. They want to see us reach and grow and learn and prosper. They want to see us thrive. When we don’t thrive, our kids absorb our sadness, our broken dreams and our lost hopes. They feel our pain. They don’t know how to put a boundary between us and them. They absorb it all. Then they lug all our stuff around with them, often for a lifetime. Don’t make your kids carry your stuff. Live your life so well, that your children are free to live their lives well too. This doesn’t mean your kids should never see you cry or make mistakes. Life is also about tears and falling down. It just means that for the most part, you live a life that is happy, that is joyous and that is free! You live your best life, so your kids can live theirs.
One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to live our lives well. Otherwise, our kids carry around the life we didn’t live. Don’t make your kids carry your un-lived life.